“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”
And that is one of the reasons that in therapy we do not talk about ‘trying’ – you either do or do not, we practise. We practise new behaviours, we practise mindfulness, we practise managing our thoughts and feelings, we practise, practise, practise… That does not mean that practise makes perfect, and once perfected you can stop. We practise so new behaviours become new habits, usually replacing unhealthy habits. When wanting to get rid of an unhealthy habit, it can become very difficult when you ‘try to stop’ and there is nothing to replace that habit. It will become easier when you practise a new healthy behaviour, making a conscious choice to do things differently.
Instead of looking at the long list of things you cannot do, look at the things you can do.
I have the unfortunate habit of ‘forgetting’ to eat and when my body screams for sustenance, I have the tendency to grab whatever is in my desk drawer (mainly biscuits and chocolate). I cannot be bothered to get out of bed earlier to make myself lunch to take to work, I tried it for a while! I am not hungry when I wake up, so trying to eat some cereal results in at least half of it ending up in the bin! Trust me, I tried!
So, I made the conscious choice to practise healthy(er) eating habits. On my way to work, I pick up chewy granola slices, a wrap or salad and some fruit (grapes are my current favourite). When starting up my computer I chew a chewy slice and my desk drawer remains shut, as I graze the fruit that is on my desk.
Until I ‘forget’ to pick up supplies – not really forgetting, just not consciously thinking! I start up my computer and reach for … And it is not there! As I am aware that I am practising, I am aware I make mistakes and those can be rectified! The moment I have a few free minutes, I pop out and go to the corner shop. They might not have exactly what I want, I can still make a healthy(er) conscious choice that day!
Until I am so busy and before you know it, it is 3pm, the desk drawer opens, and it is biscuit galore! It does not even register until there are only crumbs and empty packaging left. Now, that is the moment of epic fail! The moment I feel disgusted with myself. The moment I am my own harshest critic.
Then I remember; I am practising! I could spend my energy on berating myself or I could stop making it worse and set a reminder on my phone to pick up some healthy(er) food for dinner on my way home! And tomorrow… is a new day for continued practise! Thank you, Confucius!
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Connect & Celebrate Awareness in September 2021
September is the National Organic Month, a nationwide celebration of organic food and drink. Find out here how you and your colleagues can get involved and why organic is better for the planet, animals, wildlife and yourselves!
National Bacon Day is celebrated on the 4th of September this year! Maybe this time you could go organic?
From the 11th to the 19th of September, it is Heritage Open Days, England’s largest festival of history and culture.
And on the 13th of September it is Roald Dahl Day. What is your favourite book of world’s number one storyteller?
On the 19th of September it is International Talk Like a Pirate Day… Arrr, matey… it had to be shared!
And this year the World’s Biggest Coffee Morning is on Friday the 24th of September! Your chance to do some fundraising for MacMillan Cancer Support. Get your fundraising kit and more information here.
We hope you will have some fun and connect in September! Feel free to email us with your stories and photographs – and you might be featured in our next newsletter or blog!
This month we would like to point you towards a blog that caught our attention earlier this year.
“Hanlon’s Razor might sound like a hygiene device from Star Wars, but it’s got nothing to do with facial hair or the Millennium Falcon—we promise. Instead, Hanlon’s Razor is all about minimizing our assumptions and seeing other people’s motives in a positive light. It’s a rule of thumb that we can use to think clearly and rationally, and it’s an especially valuable tool at work.”
Find the full text here.
In these uncertain times we all could do with creating some headspace! For your overall mental health wellbeing it is useful to practice mindfulness. One of the ways of doing this is by guided meditation. You can find a whole load of guided meditations online, although it could be quite a job to find something that you like listening to. So, we have decided to share some of our favourites each month. You can download them to your computer or phone; pop some headphones in and give yourself a break!
Let’s start with Eye of the Storm; a nine minute meditation, supporting you to connect to a place of inner calm, even in the midst of chaos.
And when you are feeling frustated, P’d off, angry; this twelve minute Loving Kindness mediation will support you to let go and cultivate compassion for yourself and others, although you might want to go for a run, do some air-boxing or singing very loudly first to get rid of some pent up energy…
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